Everyday feels like a delicate dance between teaching our kids lessons and just letting them be kids.
Recently, our daughter started a dance class through our parks and recreation. She had been begging to try dance, so I found a perfect starter class that meets once a week for 7 weeks.
Last week was the second class. That morning my daughter woke up and the first words out of her mouth were, “I don’t want to do dance anymore!!!!” Tears and whining followed this proclamation.
I felt torn in two directions. I want my children to learn to honor their commitments, but I don’t want them to feel forced into activities.
At first I decided to follow her words and withdraw from the class. When I tried to withdraw from the class and realized I would not get my money back, I changed my plan.
“Try one more class,” I told her.
I knew she would love it. The week before she left twirling and smiling. I have learned she doesn’t always love the build-up to an activity, but once there loves it.
So this was a moment to teach a lesson.
What was the lesson?
Sometimes you don’t want to do something on a given day. You wake up tired and want to back out. But you want your word to mean something.
And we all have days where we just have to push through.
So after school we had some special snacks on the way to dance. The class started and Kevin and I peered into the room to see her twirling and smiling once again.
It was a good decision to make her go.
Quitting was not the answer this time.